Moving can be scary, but it can also be exhilarating.
There is a certain freedom that comes with a new address. Whether you’re moving for school, a new job, your significant other or just because you decided you want a change of scenery, you need to be sure you’re ready for the change that is about to happen.
The idea of living in a new place often gets glorified. You imagine yourself in new places making all these new friends and going on wild adventures, but that isn’t always the case. A new start can be lonely, even if you don’t do it alone.
Before packing up your things and starting life over somewhere else, ask yourself these questions:
1. Can you see yourself living there?
This new place, does it appeal to you? Make sure this is somewhere you can see yourself living. Try to find out what is in or around the area that peaks your interests.
If you love warm weather, you probably don’t want to move somewhere where it rains nine months out of the year. If you hate traffic and don’t want to give up your driving privileges, New York City may not be the best fit.
If you’re going to live there — temporarily or permanently — create a timeline for your life there and ask yourself if you envision a future there for that long.
2. Are you moving for the right reasons?
This can be tricky because sometimes the right reasons can be vague, but making sure it’s a choice that is yours is at the top of that list.
You have to be in control of the decision you’re making for you. If you move for a significant other, or because you’re worried of upsetting or disappointing someone else, you may come to resent or regret that person who influenced your choice later on. Of course, your situation is unique to you, just be prepared for the outcome if you find yourself in that position.
Make sure you are running toward a goal, not away from something else. Having something to look forward to and anticipate is a lot better than running away from a problem and looking for an immediate escape.
That sort of runaway behavior can catch up with you later on if you don’t address it in a healthy manner.