8 Odd things about Nicole Kidman and Keith Urban’s Marriage
Nicole Kidman and Keith Urban are easily one of Hollywood’s most enduring power couples. But despite being married for over a decade, this adorable, seemingly normal duo has inevitably faced their fair share of headline-making scandals over the years. Think you know everything about their whirlwind romance? Well, think again.
1.Urban waited four months to ask Kidman out on a date
Although the couple first met at the G’Day USA Gala in January 2005, their courtship wasn’t exactly love at first sight—at least according to Kidman, anyway. “It wasn’t like the earth shook,” she told Vanity Fair in 2007. In fact, while speaking to Ellen DeGeneres in 2013, the Oscar-winning beauty also admitted that Urban waited four months before he actually asked her out on a date. “I’m like, ‘You didn’t love me at first sight, you didn’t notice me,’ and he’s like, ‘Yes I did but I just didn’t let on,” she recalled. “But we kind of met and then about four months later he called me.”
2.But then they got married really, really fast
Although Urban waited awhile to ask Kidman out, their relationship quickly went into overdrive, even by Hollywood standards. Case in point: Kidman claimed in a 2014 interview with Elle magazine (via The Huffington Post) that she knew she wanted to marry Urban after dating him for only one month. “I’m spontaneous,” she said. “I jump in. I kind of like getting married and then getting to know each other. I know that it sounds incredibly strange, but to me, it’s a more natural process.”
In fact, they got married so quickly, Kidman admitted in 2015 that they only really got to know each other after they said “I do.” “We got married very quickly and we got to know each other when we were married,” she said (via Us Weekly). “I wanted a partner and someone to share my life. I wanted more children. That’s happened for me. It’s not through just luck. I was open to it and willing to change and welcome the change I got to have a child when I was 41 and then we had a surrogate.”
3.They were both very lonely people
When you think about Hollywood stars, you quickly think about the glamorous parties they must be attending and the whirlwind romances they always seem to be in. Which makes Kidman’s confession to Vanity Fair about why she and Urban initially fell in love all the more surprising. “I think we were two lonely people,” she said. “I would probably say that two very lonely people managed to meet at a time when they could open themselves to each other. We were a mixture of frightened and brave.”
“We [definitely] both met each other exactly at the right time,” Urban added in an interview with People. “She said early on that she wanted to be brave with me. I feel there was something else at work, bringing us together and then just continuing to watch over us.”
4.Urban checked into rehab almost immediately after marrying Kidman
Just four months after the couple got hitched, Urban suddenly checked himself into rehab for substance abuse issues. About a year later, Urban admitted to People that his decision to get clean and sober was catalyzed by the fear that he might, in his words, “lose it all.” “It was like, ‘If I don’t choose this moment to do the right thing and do something that’s going to give me life, all of the things I’m scared of losing, I’m going to lose anyway,'” he confessed. This marked Urban’s third trip to rehab, according to The Daily Mail.
5.Their honeymoon phase was very painful
In that same interview with People, Urban admitted that his stint in rehab “very, very hard” on his new wife.
Kidman herself backed up her husband’s claims in a separate interview with Vanity Fair. “It was just another twist in my life: Here it goes. Hold on, and off we go!” she said. “But it was painful, deeply painful. We were in a very, very, very bad, painful place, and have managed to step through it, and I hope that gives some people some hope who may be in the same place.”
6.Kidman called an intervention on Urban
In a 2014 interview with Rolling Stone, Urban confessed that it was actually Kidman who organized the intervention that helped him make the decision to enter rehab. “I was very, very blessed to have [Kidman] call an intervention on me,” he said. “I had a tight group of friends around me for the intervention. And off I went.”
“Meeting [Kidman] and falling in love with [her] and starting a relationship with [her] became—I realize now in hindsight—my sobriety,” he added. “That was how I was able to keep it together … I didn’t give a s**t about anything except turning a corner in my life and doing whatever it took for that.”
7.They never text or e-mail
Given their often hectic schedules, you’d think that Kidman and Urban would take advantage of modern day technologies like texting and e-mail to keep in touch with one another. Not exactly. In fact, Kidman told DuJour in 2014 that they pretty much only communicate over the phone while they’re apart. “My husband and I never text each other,” she said. “We never do. Once in a blue moon, we’ll text. But mainly we say, ‘I want to hear your voice.'”
“That’s very unusual, but we’ve been together for 10 years,” Kidman—who has also revealed that Urban writes her one love letter for every day they’re apart— continued. “We started like that and we haven’t changed it. We don’t email each other either. So it’s about trying to keep it as intimate and personal as possible.”
For his part, Urban corroborated Kidman’s no-texting story in an interview with Ellen DeGeneres; however, he did admit that they’ll occasionally make time for, um, special kinds of texts. “Maybe [we’ll send] one cool kind of, you know, a year,” he said. “One of those kinds of texts, yes, one of those ones with the accompanying photo. One of those kind of texts.”
“Nice sex texting,” he added. “I’m a little red right now.” Yeah, so are we.
8.They’re candid about their problems
Over the years, both Kidman and Urban have been extremely forthcoming about the struggles they’ve faced throughout their relationship.
In 2015, Urban confessed during a Country Radio Seminar Q&A session (via People) that his relationship with Kidman is a great balancing act. “Someone said one time, ‘If your marriage isn’t your priority, you’re not married,’ and I thought, for me that’s so true,” he said. “So as long as I keep her as a priority, everything else sort of seems to work. And when I don’t keep it as a priority, it’s … Jenga.”
Urban shed more light on their struggles while discussing his song “The Fighter” with Hits Daily Double in 2016. “I had such a learning curve in our marriage! When she’d get scared, I’d think she was angry; then I’d get defensive, go tearing out the driveway at 90 miles an hour … ” he said. “What she needs, and it’s in the song, is for me to stay, to be close, to hear her.” “Get Closer: the album title alone was literally from this new awareness I had with this reality of how to react,” he added. “When things are tough or upsetting, it’s about pulling her close. That’s what she needs, and I had to learn it.”
Wait a second: a Hollywood couple that isn’t picture-perfect? Nicole Kidman and Keith Urban might just be our favorite famous duo after all.